A while back I introduced you to information on Serial Bullies. While reading the information on bullyonline.org I was reading the signs and symptoms of what they call a Socialised Psychopath or Sociopath.
The Socialised Psychopath or Sociopath
Also known as the corporate psychopath, workplace psychopath, industrial psychopath and administrative psychopath.
Motivation: power, gratification, personal gain, survival
Mindset: manipulation, deception, evil
Malice: high to very high; when held accountable, off the scale
Then I started reading through the detailed profile of the Socialised Psychopath and so many of the identifying features sounded so familiar: (these aren’t in any particular order…I’ve numbered them for easy reference)
- always charming and beguilingly plausible, especially to those who are capable of protecting or enhancing the sociopath’s position
- is extremely and successfully manipulative of people’s perceptions and emotions (eg guilt and anger)
- will often engineer himself or herself into a position of authority as gatekeeper of the organization and thus the person through whom all information must flow, and the person to whom all requests for services must be referred – which he or she then takes delight in denying
- is adept at offering weak and inadequate people the positions of power, control, security, influence or respect that they crave but who lack the necessary competencies to achieve – such people are unaware that their consequent dependence on the sociopath makes them permanent manipulatees, pawns and expendable agents of harassment. [comment: maybe sicknpink might be interested in this one...]
- at all times restricts the actions and rights of others (especially those holding the sociopath accountable) whilst aggressively protecting his or her right to do anything without being hampered by social norms or legal requirements
- a history of conducting frivolous, vexatious and malicious legal actions, especially (but not exclusively) against anyone who can recognise the sociopath for what he is. [comment: want to talk to Melissa about this one?!]
- pursues endless vindictive vendettas against anyone perceived as a threat or who attempts, knowingly or unknowingly, to identify or reveal or expose the sociopath, or who makes efforts to hold the sociopath accountable
- is adept at appropriating rules, regulations, procedures and law to manipulate, control and punish accusers regardless of relevance, logic, facts or consequences
That’s just a small amount of what is there.
Most of it hits too close to home for me.
Well, well, well. Very interesting. No wonder the person I’m thinking of works as a Fraud Investigator. Takes one to know one? And what feeling of POWER she must derive from her little blog.
I think she also assumes that she’s smart enough to skirt the laws when she posts her vengeful little comments about carpenters, NSDs, former friends *ha*, etc.
I remember a comment a while ago indicating that MKC’s walls were going to come crumbling down. Methinks Ms. Tracy’s walls are showing signs of wear and she should be wearing a hardhat at all times. Maybe Mr. Briggs will loan her one.
Well, when you build a house of sand…
HELLO! #8 really stuck out to me…see post on Defamation. And what about being adept at manipulating emotions? She’s good at getting everyone upset while keeping her distance. I noticed that from the first days of Mary Kay Sucks.
Hi, for over a year now, I’ve worked under a female manager, who I firmly believe has sociopathic/psychopathic or Narcissistic personality disorder traits.
If I mention any problems I’m having with staff to her, she twists my words, uses guilt-trips & scare tack-ticks, to try make me doubt somethings wrong with me, minimizes my concerns or feelings, (emotionally abusive-uses gaslight verbal abuse), good at projecting her insecurities on to me, v good liar, likes to mostly associate with what she thinks special like mind people or authoritive figures, uses emotional blackmail, v charming (superficial), attention seeking behaviour, constantly critizes, hardly gives attention/flatters others unless she thinks it benefits her, openly brags all the time- e.g. she’s the best at everything, v egotistical, manipulative & extremely vain, need to be admired/noticed or strong need of entitlement.
Likes to create lies to make others around her fight, so blame isn’t on her. Has little sense of personal boundries (likes to invade your privacy/ask too personal questions, thinks it’s funny if you pull her up on this), sneaky & devious, lacks real empathy, likes to play mind games & verbally intimidate, likes to micro-manage or her company is v suffocating (like if you get any attention she wants it ALL), vindictive, likes to see others suffer esp people who appear weaker than her self, likes you to be dependent on her, also appears she does not like her own company!
I’ve also noticed if you flatter her ego or give her loads of attention, she rarely hassels you, or sees you as a threat, if you act like you love her she won’t bother attempting to assassinate your character against others, or verbally attacking you when least expecting it to keep you on defensive. Also despite appearing to be v confident/inflated ego, she does not react well to personal critism.
I thought that was bad enough, but now I think we have another one similar to her, to contend with. It is a guy who works for our firm casually. And surprise surprise, is mates/sucks upto this female manager! Except the guy is v promiscious with women, appears to extent devient( suggests likes to force women sexually), lying, v bad attitude of women (hides it behind charm/being helpful) but always tries to use others, esp women sexually, thinks he’s gods gift to all women, v charming, arrogant, v emotionally manipulative, cannot cope with being rejected & gets nasty ‘can’t take no for answer’, pathologically jealous/obsessive, very demanding & controlling, appears to have no conscience using & abusing others, egotistical, likes to associate mostly with higher staff/management, exaggerates abilities & accomplishments(delusional), likes to keep you on the defensive by attacking your insecurities, if he thinks you are a threat to him, esp if you know what he’s like -won’t be charmed by him or allow him to use you.
In short, I’m personally v stressed, having alot of problems at the moment watching my back with these two very nasty individuals, who have it in for me, probably because they know I see through both their facades. I am at the moment thinking of looking for new work, as they are both mentally tiring & depressing me with the constant abuse & manipulation I’m subjected to from them. I could complain to others, but what would be the point- who would believe me & also they would only lie v convincingly, besides gain a victims attention, which I don’t intend to give them the satisfaction.
Sounds horrible Laura.
Wow!! What an eye opener. I never knew the name of what my ex husband was. He definatly is a sociolized pyschopath. I can’t say enough how he matches to the “T” when I read through the detail profile. I’ve been so diligently trying to figure out what he is up to and why he insists on lieing about stuff. He has lied about stuff to me about the police wanting to talk to me and mad that I married a very nice man from Israel, combining the two as “one” situation and demanding I give up custody of the kids, “or else”. Blah blah blah. Of course I was upset, but I am trying to cope with him without showing that it bothers me. He is now lieing to my kids about me telling them that I am going to the bar every morning and getting drunk. Also trying to make ME believe that the neighbors have seen me and my new husband having knock down fights in the driveway, which I know isn’t true because we just don’t fight, we are in love and we see through his puny behavior. This bothers him. Thank you!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!!!
Adult bullies target people with differences from themselves, especially those who have high morals and integrity. Adult bullies usually have problems coping with their own problems and are desperately trying to find ways to make themselves look better by targeting other adults who they perceive will not fight back.
The children of bullies either become bullies also or live in fear or the bully (sometimes both)
Bullies are psychopaths and constantly harass, find fault with everyone except themselves, will lie and spread gossip, they target those who are innocent and to their claims and continuously make false accusations about them.
The list goes on……
Is is not safe to trust them.
They will confuse you with a fake friendly gesture before they start bullying you all over again.